It's never easy to heal after a loved one's death. While you do take some time to allow yourself time to heal; remember and create healthy memories that last. Here are five traditions that you can use to help you along the way as you keep your loved one's memory alive.
1.Birthday Celebration. Your loved one may not be here in the flesh any longer, but by celebrating their birthday as if they were here, helps to remind you of their personality, how much they meant to you, and how much they enjoyed life. If you two had a special restaurant, birthday cake, hang out spot, or champagne toast on his or her birthday, why not share that in loving memory of them.
2.Establish a Charity. By establishing a charity in their name, you are helping to keep a cause going strong, as if they were still alive. You can donate to the charity annually or on a monthly basis depending on your preference. There are many charities and foundations that were established to continue the good works of those who have passed on. This not only helps those who are still here in need, but your late loved one's message will stay alive and relevant for years to come.
3. Memorial Service.A memorial service can do wonders for the immediate family but also friends who loved and appreciated your loved one. When someone dies who was truly special to so many, it's difficult for everyone to cope with the lost. By having a memorial service, it gives people the opportunity to make peace with the loss and to share how much your loved one meant to them as well. You can also video record your memorial service and send it to out-of-town guests who were not able to attend. This is a way to reach a larger number of people and touch many lives in the process.
4. Create a Video Montage. With a video montage, you can gather all of your favorite photos of your loved one into one place. Their favorite song can play in the background as each photo is showcased in the video. Every year you can have this video montage play at the family reunion or whenever you miss seeing their face.
5.Keep Holiday Traditions. When the holiday season comes around, it is difficult to think about anything else, but the ones we have lost and loved so much. However, what we can do during the holidays, is keep some of their holiday traditions, such as: baking their favorite pies and desserts, prepping the family dinner with their favorite side dishes, decorating the tree just the way they would have liked it, build a snowman in the front yard, have hot chocolate by the fire while singing holiday songs, or look through old family photo albums sharing the times past. This will help to bring warmth, peace, and acceptance, into your life but also those around you.
I hope this will help you or someone in your life, create lasting traditions for their loved one no longer with us.
"Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." - Tori Amos
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